Is my wife a WAW or is this a MLC? thx2brs

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Which route would you suggest is the worst case? I had a MLC that I turned into a WAS,until she gets thru anger stage,I won't know what I'm dealing with is that correct?I am following the Last Resort Technique.

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Jack does that help?And a month ago I google crisis' and she hit all 14 of the signs of a midlife crisis,I found in an article.

But most of what I have read,the spouses lived together or the MLCS left,not the other way around.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Much better.

What are your living arrangements?

Where were you in those two years of your (collective) parenting skills going down the crapper?

Of course he isn't attracted to her. It would just be wrong if he was...Buddy I do not know you, your neighbor, or her. Emotional affairs hurt just as much in different ways than physical affairs, but 'He's just a friend' is standard
bul lshit and is usually used to cover up the sucker punch.

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And ultimately no one wants her to make a decision she will regret,except My MILaw

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I know their is an emotional affair going on, I have and she has justified as "filler" until I get home.

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She has been gracious enough to alternate weeks at the house with kids.So the kids and I can build a relationship.

I have had one of the worst 4 days in my life with my children.My daughter will flat run over someone and she has my wife.My son is acting the same way, when he was crushed when this all started.

Two weeks ago,my first time in the house for a FT since July.The kids were my kids,life as usual.It has progressively gotten worse.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I have provided counselors what I think they needed to help her

Stop. They are trained, they don't need your help, unless they ask for it.

I am following the Last Resort Technique.

Really? You are? Soooo you are prepared to live your life without her then? LRT ... it isn't a trick, either you are prepared for her to totally leave you and be fine with it, or your prepared tfor her to come back...but man, I do not know anyone who is ready for LRT right off the bat.

You think LRT will work as a trick, so you try it, and when it doesn't work you go back to bugging her and crap...and you think LRT has failed you, when in fact you simple weren't in the right frame of mind for it.

You were a WAH? Is that what you said? Did I read that correctly?

AYK there are no guarentees here, you know that right? MLC is a minefield, it is a long haul with alot of wrecks on the wayside. The important thing is you...improving YOU for when she does come out of it. And until she does come out of it, there is no trick or tactic that you can do to make her come out of it quicker...you can do shi t that keeps her there longer. You don't want that. And while she is in MCL she will push your buttons just to pi ss you off.

But it ain't her man, its the MLC.

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So bad so,that I have people searching me out to tell me what's going on at the house when i am gone.

Now twice last weekend,my spouse about came back to rescue her kids,from "threats."At the last minute she said she needs to learn to put her foot down and not save them this time.Then she told me how to parent and told me it would be ok to watch alittle bit of football and not worry about her and she told me where she was at.

If it is kid related,she will KIT.Like practices,games,conferences she will contact me.

If it is anything else, no and while I am at the house.Don't leave the bills for her.Now I know why she left my shirt on the dryer.Wow Jack slowing down does help.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Where does she stay when you are there?

PS you post like a hamster on crack. : )

[Jack_Three_Beans]

So bad so,that I have people searching me out to tell me what's going on at the house when i am gone

Tell them to F off. In a nice way. The less people who know...oh wait I already told you that...