I sympathize with you on your W being angry once you made the changes. That same thing happened with me. When I asked her about it, she said where were the changes a few years ago and that if I had made those changes then, we would be where we are now. I just don’t understand.
I think that because she is still in the house, she doesn’t want to lose what she has because she knows she has a good thing, but like my wife, likes that attention because she might feel she is not receiving that (of didn’t receive that at one time) from you. For me, after I really figured out my problems and corrected them, I think I tried too hard to show her my changes and that I could give her what she needed (and that pushed her away). So I think I need to just back off and work on myself and see if I can attract her again. You have older children that you don’t have to worry about leaving home, so maybe try taking her to do something you have never done before. She is still there and as much as she is just acting like an acquaintance, I think you can still get her back. It’s just finding what will catch her attention is going to be the challenge.
