I made it clear and she agreed that there will be no dating. W has broken off seeing him (and says it was just a "couple of dates", going to the museum kind of a thing), if not FB contact. Make of this what you will.
She has agreed to counciling for "closure", not for the goal of working on the M. I'm not sure where to come down on that right now. I've got an appt now for next Monday for a new counciler - right now for me - but perhaps we can expand this into something bigger with W.
So my lawyer gave me a name for another consultative lawyer that my W could use. W has shown some annoyance at this, but this morning said that she knows I'm right about it, she's just overwhelmed. We'll see what happens there.
Before I left this morning, I sat down next to her briefly and said "have a good day." She put her head on my shoulder for a moment, said "I miss you." And I said..... "See you tonight" and got up and left.
Thank you guys for the responses. I think I may try out this DivorceCare business. Hope, I don't know if this is second thoughts or not, she's acted like this before when she's "sad". I just don't know. These guys have given me a lot of coaching to not comfort her, make it OK for her, let her feel the concequences of her actions. Karen, GIMA - yeah, I'm being careful with my expectations here. Monitoring.
