Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[Hope4us]

Um....yes, like a whole year of thinking that.

Some times were more intense, some times less.

If she's got a lot to think about, let her. You can't change or control what she's going to do can you?

Even 8 months after my W's A ended she still couldn't tell me that she even wanted to "try".

There were periods where even after we'd ML and had some really good weeks where she would pull back and spend 2 or 3 days VERY quiet and staring out the windows etc. Then she'd slowly come around. I tried my hardest to give her the space she needed.

Look, I know it sucks and I know how hard it is as a guy to not fix stuff, but you can't fix it for her. She has to figure this out on her own. Will it be the way you want it to turn out? Maybe, maybe not.

Just because she's down doesn't mean she's planning on leaving. Could be she is, but the point is, you don't know. So don't let it affect your mood when you're with her. You called her on it, now leave it be and give her the space she wants/needs.

If you give her the space she needs, two good things happen. She recognizes you aren't pushing her and second, she see's you GAL and not reacting to her every mood and that makes her wonder.

Keep your chin up. I found I made the most progress when I figured out I wanted to be with her, but I didn't need to be with her.