Looks like I might soon be LBS...newcomer here

[brownidmom]

So, last night, I took S8 for a walk. S6 was still finishing up homework and H said he couldn't go with us. We went for a very long walk so I got some exercise and spend quality time with S. After listening to him about school and stuff, I told him that I know he has noticed some problems lately. I assured him that I love his father but that things will possibly be changing soon.

S told me that H is sometimes mean to me, even though S knows H loves me. I didn't probe, just listened. S said something is wrong with H for not believing me. (Once, when S8 was 4, H woke up one morning and decided it was time to go. Instead of thinking it through, H told S that very morning that H was leaving because Mommy lied to him. S has never forgotten that day~ Oh, and H had changed his mind by that night, SO MUCH FOR doing the adult thing and saving your kids from all unnecessary adult conversations!) I digress...

I acknowledged last night that yes, I lied to H about something over and over for a very long time, told him that I would not discuss what I lied about, but that I was NOT lying anymore. I questioned saying it but I felt that because he has been holding onto those words for 4 years that he deserved to hear the truth. S said he believed me. I told him that I don't know what is going to happen but to talk to me whenever he has questions. I will answer if appropriate.

S told me that every morning on the way to school, H tells him and other S, "If your mother continues doing this to me, I might leave." I asked him if he has ever responded and he said no.

SO - Is H trying to prepare them for his exit, or is he trying to poison their little minds into believing this is all my fault?!?!

I have decided to make an appt. with a counselor before I decide what to do. Is it possible to salvage this M after almost 7 years of the same old???