Stronger, CIPA's wife has known since day one he has been here how bad he wants this to work out. It hasn't worked. No one is saying to punish her. It is called "lovingly detach." CIPA IMO has yet to detach. I think the space could do him a lot of good.
I also don't know how good it is for the boys to see Mom and Dad doing things together as a family when reconciliation is not apparent. Confuses the kids. Then creates anxiety when the seperation occurs after the meeting. Of course the kids want to stay together as a family. We all want that for each other here.
CIPA doesn't control how his wife might feel - "show remorse," "feel sorry," or "how much better it could be." If his wife is serious and willing to do the work on herself then great. But rushing back in at this point when problems aren't resolved doesn't seem productive to having a healthy/loving marriage.
CIPA, I want nothing more for you to be a family again if that's what you want. I also know that you don't control all of that. Your wife has to be willing to be "all in." You need this time to detach for yourself. Process your feelings, find yourself, love your kids, grow, get your swagger back, realise you don't need your wife and give your wife the time to do the same. You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
