What to do when H doesn't contact?

[The Wifey]

Lost,

There is so much you can do, but you are so new to the sitch that you don't understand that yet. Focus on you and the kids. Let him go. Don't waste so much time on wondering where he is, why he did this, what is he going to do next? All of that only keeps you in a state of pain. Picture it like a hot stove. Don't let yourself touch the hot stove.

Focusing means focusing on you and the kids exclusively. I know it sounds impossible to do, but it isn't. Do it for the next 5 minutes, then the next 10, then the next 15 and so on. Don't think into the future, stay in the present.

As far as the kids, let them process and think about their emotions. Don't discuss what your D should put into her letter. Don't let her into any details of what has been said or done between you and the H.

I know its hard, very, very hard. But you need to grow and strengthen you.