This journey, and even Divorce Busting, IMO, is not about the other person, or your WAW or whatever - it's about YOU. You do not need to journey toward another person, you need to find God's perfect will in YOU. I get so frustrated with people on this board that come in desperate to save their marriages, and so in love with their spouses - then all of a sudden a weird thing happens where they find peace, and strength, and are in charge, and sure enough, you find out some girl or guy swept onto the scene and made them feel all right about themselves.
They learned nothing! Someone does not complete you - you should offer a person a complete person. I think they should compliment you, uplift you, love you - but not complete you. You can be a whole person in yourself, especially with God's help.
Learn to focus on yourself - you are not meant to have your gaps and mistakes resolved by your spouse but by God and self-responsibility. When you are complete and content within yourself, then you are ready to be the spouse your WAW might want.
I agree with that 100%. My point was that that source of strength and guidance is THE source for me. As for another person or WAW, I think you are on the right track if you meant you will be happy no matter what. I think this is what you meant. You, alone, however, are responsible for your happiness.
