and faxed a letter to her counselor, that I'm just going to sit back and watch how she handles kids and stuff, there has been some stuff going on, bad stuff and as a parent i want to protect them.
That's going to go over like a fart in church.
Stop being petty. This is not tit for tat...if it is I can direct you to several very help passive aggresive self help groups.
Did you start reading the resources? How does MC seem to fit or not fit?
Have you looked deep into the mirror and figured out your faults and failings in the marriage yet?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
