Last night was the first time I have ever told him to tell his parents "hey back off". In the past, I've only said "I'm not mad at them, I know they don't really know what's going on here." And he agreed and seemed happy I wasn't mad at them. And I'm really not. I know they've been lied to, things have been exaggerated and blown out of proportion and things have been left out. So, based on what they've been told, I want my kid to get the hell out of there too. But I do want them to back off.
I didn't really think about the message I was sending when I sent him home because I needed the space. He lied to his mother! He's 34 year old. It's time to stop taking the easy way out and get on the high road he talks about so much. I needed to calm down and not let things escalate any more. It was more ducking and covering than trying to send him a message and he knows that because I told him. But you might be right about that message. I'll mull it over.
I have never tried to imagine that though...getting myself into this mess and then how to get myself out....that's an interesting assignment. I'll do that later, really try to put myself in his shoes.....and be glad I only have to imagine it, not live it.
