Clinging, This is sort of a pet peeve of mine - I learned it the hard way so I'll pass it on to you. Giving called it above - don't wait and see for anything. I know it's easy for me to type that, not so easy for you to practice it.
I will tell you what leads to success - 180s help, going dark helps, etc, but they are strategies that are, in my opinion, dependent on the person enacting them. If there is not a genuine heart behind the actions, then they are smokescreens. Are you sorry your WAS left? Or just sorry that you weren't the spouse you should've been, but didn't do anything about it before? I don't know - please don't take it as condemnation, but rather an opportunity for introspection.
Here is what I take issue with:
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I'm trusting that God will show me the way either back to my WAW or to another person and another path.
This journey, and even Divorce Busting, IMO, is not about the other person, or your WAW or whatever - it's about YOU. You do not need to journey toward another person, you need to find God's perfect will in YOU. I get so frustrated with people on this board that come in desperate to save their marriages, and so in love with their spouses - then all of a sudden a weird thing happens where they find peace, and strength, and are in charge, and sure enough, you find out some girl or guy swept onto the scene and made them feel all right about themselves.
They learned nothing! Someone does not complete you - you should offer a person a complete person. I think they should compliment you, uplift you, love you - but not complete you. You can be a whole person in yourself, especially with God's help.
Learn to focus on yourself - you are not meant to have your gaps and mistakes resolved by your spouse but by God and self-responsibility. When you are complete and content within yourself, then you are ready to be the spouse your WAW might want.
