No sane woman will want a husband who feels entitled to judge and determine what is good for her.
A&K,
This bothers me. I am not judging her. The lifestyle she is leading is a sinful one full of darkness that ultimately only leads to destruction. I am praying that she come out of that lifestyle to seek Gods true word and will for her life. God doesn't lead people into adultery. He doesn't lead people to divorce. We are supposed to pray for those that are leading a life of sin.
Now before you go pointing at me. Yes, I need prayers to and I have my faults to that I am trying to work through and not lead the kind of life I used to anymore as well. So I am not pointing a finger at her. But I am praying for her to come out of this lifestyle. I also pray that I don't continue to fall into sin.
There is no judgement in that from me. I am not the judge of anyone. But I do pray for those including my W that have chosen the path of adultery that they will be turned away from that.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
How are you today? I see that you are on the defensive in your last posts. I know from talking to you that you get overwhelmed by lists. So, just one question - did you buy notebooks for you and the girls to journal in?
KJ
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
No, I forgot to buy the notebooks this past weekend. I will do that at some point this week. It just completely slipped my mind.
I'm not trying to be on the defensive. Just trying to... ah heck, I don't know what I am trying to do. I'm not sure why I bother speaking.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Alrighty then. Good to know you aren't judging her.
How is that judging her? By praying for her that she doesn't continue down that path is judging her?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I am not condemning her. Therefore I am not judging her. I am praying for her.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Kevin not one person would post to you if they didn't care. We just see you doing the same things over and over and they're not working. You've probably got by far the most advice and some of the best, but you're not following through.
I know I've told you this before, addicts are all about instant gratification...You've got to get over that...
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
K - You are being judgemental. It's understandable. She lied to you and hurt you and betrayed you, but that is why you need to give that ALL up to GOD to burden. Not you! He is the one and only true judge. You are just not in CONTROL anymore and it sucks. Just LET GO!!! Pray to GOD for strength and guidance and respect BUT DONT pray for your WAW to come back. You might be praying against what God has planned for you. Just pray for God's light to shed on your life... You said you read and understood the story about Gomer... I was not nearly as strong... I judged and still judge my X for lying and cheating but it is not my place to do that... I prayed for Gods strength to let go and guide me to where Im supposed to go. I pray that you do the same...
LET GO AND LET GOD!!! STOP CHOOSING YOUR OWN PATH LET GOD GUIDE YOU!!!
So by pointing out that she is leading a life of adultery which is in the bible and by praying for her not to is judging?
Yes, we all live sinful lifestyles, but we should strive not to and pray for each other. That isn't judging.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
