#1 - W came to me all wheedly and sweet, wanting some of my time with the kids, and I simply said, "No, you have already taken 50% of my time with the kids, and I will give up no more." She blew up and yelled and ranted, and threatened divorce and 'taking everything I have'. I replied, "I understand you're upset, but the conversation is over." I then hung up. She called me back an hour later crying, and said, "I'm so busy with work and school, I just don't have time to see them." I replied, "I understand it must be tough, but these were your choices, and you will need to prioritize what is most important in your life."
So I thought I was doing exactly this when I told her to make the decision. It was her weekend with the kids and she was graciously allowing them to be with me to go to the party. I wanted her to make the call. Whether it was because she needed the time to herself, she wanted to be with OM, whatever. I didn't want to assume the burden for her.
So is this controlling of me to have not made the call? Was I trying to manipulate in a way or place that I shouldn't have?
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
