Young couple in need of help

[Stronger]

You let the kids talk to her. You would want her to do the same, right?

[sumguy27]

I do. But I also want to go dark or have no contact with her. Its harder when you have kids. I don't know why she doesn't understand that we will be in each others lives for the rest of our lives every single day.

I miss them. I miss my little fattie. She usually wakes me up by biteing me and scratching me.

[Stronger]

I know SG, but you have to hang in there. And you can go pretty dark but no, not completely because of the kids. But that can be to your advantage too in that you will def. have the opportunity to interact with her and you can make it light and relaxing.

Hang in there. You are doing better than you think.

If you can stay away and go as dark as possible you will see a change in her.

[sumguy27]

Stronger it has been very tough. I recently been doing that exercise to stop thinking about her affair when we were still together that last weekend. It didn't help I got details about it from a friend who couldn't hold back the info anymore from me. Everytime I feel like begging and pleading I try and hold it back by calling a close friend instead.

I have gotten my appetite back. I feel like I have hit rock bottom last week and now I'm coming out of it. I didn't plan on going down to 135 lbs. I wanted to stay at 140lb and tone up. Wished I could turn back time.

[sumguy27]

Oh and I hate Kelly Clarkson's new song "already gone." Grrr! Its on her myspace page dedicated to me.

[Stronger]

wow.
ignore it.

[Stronger]

You OK?

[sumguy27]

Yeah I'm ok. Yesterday I took my son out to the mall to get new clothes and signed up for class for school. I didn't contact her all day. She texted saying she needs me to cancel my phone line because she can't afford it and for me to pay for one of my son's medical bill.

Just trying to stay positive. And keeping myself busy.

[texasbobby]

my wife said the exact same thing to me. i finally did bc that would be all she would text about. remember got to get rid of the negative feelings first.

[sumguy27]

Yeah I see what you mean. She is struggling big time right now finacially. Especially now since she has my daughter to take care off and I think she finally realized that being a single parent is tougher then it seems. Still trying to deteach. Almost there but not completely. I'm hoping she can come to her senses soon.