One of the things YOU need to realize here is that MLC, if that is the case, is NOT an easy path for either of you.
Don't think for one minute that she is clear headed and fully cognizant of what it is that she is doing at any minute through this thing.
That being said, there is no reason at all for BOTH of you to spin in circles right now.
You should concentrate on being a Father, and a Man first right now. Being a husband is Yet to be Determined for her.
Accept that what she feels, is what she feels. Validate that, and understand that, but don't buy into anything that she says.
Listen VERY closely to her complaints though, there is probably some credence to them. And YOU need to address those things.
Realistically, they would cause concerns in ANY relationship, not just with her.
Take this time that she has given you, YES, I said that correctly, and use it to find the person that you have lost over the years. I stress YOU there too.....
There are NO GUARANTEES in this DB'ing thing. Saving your marriage MAY happen, but saving yourself is the priority right now.
Take a look in the mirror and decide what YOU can do better than what you have been doing.
Do some of the things you have always wanted to do, don't quit living.
Yes, J3B is a bit Gruff, and maybe I am too, but through a true MLC, an armadillo should look at you and say, " Man that dude has a thick skin, I wish mine was that thick. "....
Stop talking to everyone around you, READ, READ, READ, and when you are done ?
READ some more and totally understand what is happening around you right now.
Knowledge is power, and you need all the advantage you can get to get through this thing.
Find a different therapist for YOU and YOU alone. Conflict of interest right now.
Read some of the other peoples threads here too, post to others and forge friendships with these people that are in this with you.
A LOT of valuable information is on their threads....USE IT !!!!
