Bills must be discussed. Absolutely. He and you don't get to escape the responsibilities of life as this is going on.
No, I'm not saying you have to make the changes alone. But you have to make the effort to keep the marriage as stable as possible alone because he's not going to help.
You make the changes in you that you think need to be made and he'll notice and be impressed or he won't. The changes that need to be made will help you no matter what the outcome.
