Thanks cat. I think its also really sucky to watch H flounder in his cesspool of bitterness and hate. But you're right, it's his cesspool. I've got a hand out in case he wants to step out but he's choosing to stay in it. H is a big boy and it's his choice.
I believe H struggles with anxiety/depression, and has long before MLC started. He has never slept well, but he is anti meds, and anti counseling, and, well, anti everything. This morning H has a physical scheduled and I so hope the dr will ask how its going and H will tell him the truth. I doubt it will happen, but it would be interesting if it did.
H 51/W 43 Together 24yrs/Married 19yrs 2 kids- D18 & S16 "I want out" July 2008 "I want out" Dec 2008 "I want you out" Aug 2009 Still in house thru it all