He's confused about whether he wants to be in this marriage. So at this point you have to understand, he's not going to change and he's not going to really make any effort.
MWD is very explicit in her explanation that pretty much at this point 100% of this is on you. If you can't handle that, then you are probably done.
You're confused because he is. About what exactly? He may not even be able to give you those answers.
If things were going well with OW, then no, things would be even worse with you guys. EVERYTHING would be a fight.
For three weeks in January, my H's ex-OW were hot and heavy. He thought they were going to ride off into the sunset together. But nope, she went and got a rich and younger boyfriend. (Younger than H) And during that time in January, things were HORRIBLE with us. When she dumped H, things were pretty great. (Then she continued to yank H's chain, but that's another story.)
