checking in ... again

[garyjlost]

Thanks for the suggestion, BrokenTrust.

I've sort of attempted this, but I didn't follow through very well.

Part of the problem is just getting time with my wife. There is no cuddle time. For example, she ALWAYS chooses to watch TV with our daughter versus with me (and I can only watch so much Disney channel or the Cartoon Network before I go nuts). Occasionally, we ALL watch TV together (maybe an old movie). But getting any alone time with my wife when we can just cuddle is almost impossible.

And at the end of the night, after a date night, my wife just goes to bed and falls asleep while I'm running the babysitter home(unless I plead with her to stay up). So it's hard to turn the tables because the opportunity for turning the tables is hard to come by. (Note: and don't even think about me waking her up when I get back--not possible. She'll growl like a bear.)

Every evening when we go to sleep, she insists that I turn AWAY from her. She then cuddles against me. But she refuses to let me cuddle her. She is absolutely rigid in her thinking. No exceptions are allowed. Ever. Well, maybe once a year (and then she thinks she's being incredibly generous).

She's a piece of work, I'm telling you.

An example: it was my birthday recently. There was really just one thing that I wanted. To make love to my wife. She knew this. That evening, she says she's too tired. Tomorrow. We'll make love tomorrow. Tomorrow arrives. Her period arrives. She makes it clear she won't enjoy love making. She says I can do it but just make it quick.

In her defense:
The complication here is my wife was a walk-away wife. A year ago, she had really checked out of the marriage. On one hand, I suppose I should be glad that she and I are making love at all. In this type of situation, the wife typically has stopped making love to the husband altogether. If reconciliation happens, love making doesn't typically follow--for a long time. This I've been told by other WAWs in the DB forums. So on one hand, I should be grateful that lovemaking has returned to the marriage, but on the other hand .... ARRRRRRRRGGGGHHHHHHHHH!