wife left, wants divorce, possibly bipolar

[ryepatch]

so there was another knock on the door tonight, i imagine from a
process server. i hid in the bathroom til he went away. i told my wife i'd sign the papers if she would sit down with me and tell me why she wants a divorce and talk about using mediation to come up with a settlement. i just don't understand, i'm willing to sign away my right to spousal support (would ask for $600 a month until i finish my degree, two more years), and we could avoid hiring lawyers ($2000-$3000 just for retainers). i could also get her to pay for my lawyer since i have no income.

so this divorce could cost her $20,000, or we could sit down for a few minutes and come up with a settlement. it's worth $20,000 to her so she doesn't have to talk to me?

how does that make sense? she wasn't even angry when she left, said she didn't blame me. . . said she still loved me.

why can't she talk to me? or even email? or at least read my emails?

she's going to work, so she can't be totally manic. . . maybe hypomanic still. . . it doesn't make any sense.

she told me before she left that if she ever left me, she'd come back, i shouldn't worry. now all she says to anybody is she's done with the marriage.

how do i DB this crap?