A quick note... the H just left my room, he was having trouble sleeping and wanted to talk (pinched myself on that one because I had to be dreaming).
He had been thinking alot about things and thinks that it might be his relationship with his parents that have made him feel guilty. His parents opinions have always been very important to him and when we were engaged and moved back into the area his mother first had a talk with him then with me. They are very devout and told him, then me, that the bible states that if a man marries a divorced woman he is committing adultry. Then his church did not allow us to get married there because I was divorced. We were married instead at a quaint little chapel by the ocean and that night... he watched football in the honeymoon suite while I fell asleep waiting for him.
We discussed it and the timing is almost pinpoint to the death of our sex life, when it started to unravel until it finally died.
So... now we know what in his mind started the troubles, but we are confused about how to fix things. We did have a laugh when he said 'sc*ew marriage counseling, I need therapy because my mom got between us in bed!'. Then he got silent and said "I actually do, don't I?'
Hopefully major steps to finding the 'whys'... but what do we do to try to get past it?
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
(okay, not a short note)
M- 11 y H- 40 Me- 41 D (1st M) 19 S (1st M) 17 First EA (w/OOW)discovered 2000 Third EA (w/OOW & phone) discovered 02/06 SSM (total) 3 1/2 years
