I'm gonna say that I have to agree with Jack. Newcomers is good, and will help you realize you aren't alone, but sometimes the advice really doesn't fit if it is MLC.
He is also right about paragraphs, but I don't always follow that rule. Sorry Jack
Only you can really determine if it is MLC or not. The resources do help. As you read others stories, MLC and not MLC, you will see some similarities, but other things will stand out to you either way.
DB is no magic fix, whatever situation you are in. But it is a way to help you cope, heal, and it is a process. Just like the counseling. This just doesn't get better overnight, it didn't happen overnight.
Restored marriages are wonderful, but one thing I've learned is that is not the definition of success. That is what Jack was hinting at. You will hear it time and again here.
So read, post, people will come to help. If you have J3B checking in, you can be some other wonderful people will too. He may seem rough and gruff, but he's a good wise man.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
