I am sorry you are going through this. It definitely sounds like we may be in the same boat. I too have been left with 3 cats and wonderng what the hell to do with them. All I can say is we need to detach. We can still love them, but we have make it our choice to love them. They will always be bipolar and we need to be able to step back and let things go when it gets crazy; that is the only way to stay sane ourselves.
I wish I had a recomendation on the NC, but I don't. Do you know if she is taking meds? Is she on a mood stabilizer? That did help my W.
