I'm so sorry for your loss. Please write and write and write. Sometimes that is the only thing that helps me. You are a lucky girl to have a dad with those qualities. And your plan to aspire to those qualities is a sound and wonderful endevor.
And I am so sorry, I have not written you in a long while. I hope you are doing ok. My thoughts are with you. You sound as if you have some peace about the entire situation. I think this past one month has been a blur for me. I will go back and read up on how you have been doing so that I'm caught up and will write more tomorrow.
I just wanted to write and let you know you and your family are in my prayers.
And btw, I think what you said to your H is so honorable and kind and good!