thanks- I like the part about it being time for him to read my book! I try to remember he has no power over me, in fact I said that to him, but he still has power over my heart. I think he just gave up without trying- and maybe that "means" that he isn't willing to change, never will, I am better off without him, etc, but it still hurts. I seem to have gotten it in my head (with his help) that I am the one giving up.
