Nope, no message to my L - I have a "do not initiate contact" with him too. H wants this D, H needs to push it through. He's had my terms for over 3 weeks now - it's his turn to call his L and see what's next.

As for the mail, his name is still on mortage statements and a few other things, so I can't change his address officially with the post office yet.

Most of his stuff is in a back room that was "his" room anyway. But still, no matter where I look there's some gift, or something - I mean 20 years - our life together is all over the house.

I don't think I'll truly be able to heal until I'm in a new place. However, I did finally take down all the pictures of us and now there's only pics of my family. That was a sad day, but empowering too.


Me 56
H 47
Married 21 years
No children
Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself".
Ow Bomb 8/07
H filed 6/08
D final 2/05/10