The reason I asked you to post here is well for several reasons.
One you posted here first.
Two New Comers is good and all, but there is also alot of conflicting advice at times.
Three if you wife is in MLC then, not all the advice you get in New Comers is going to serve you well in your goal toward still being married.
That being said, it is up for you to determine if your wife is in MLC.
There are several resources at the top of this board. Just please do yourself a favor and do not apply a time line to your wife, and if you can...skip the stages, they aren't in any order, and it doesn't help you to put them in any order...MLC is what it is.
You had a few people tell you in Newcomers to read Divorce Busting...please do. It is an amazing resource. However, do not let your wife see that book. Do not show it to her thinking that it will magically solve your problems by brandishing liek a sword in front of a dragon.
Use paragraphs when writing it makes it easier to read and you want people to read this and respond.
Stop asking your C for what your wife told him/her, it is unprofessional on their end if they did.
You should prepare yourself mentally for the possibility of your wife having a physical affair.
Be the one in whatever number it is of successful DBers, although your definition of success will change. Some one has to be, why not you?
I hope some others will chime in with their words and thoughts.
I'd say sorry you're here, but if you're here, you have some growing to do. And really 'sorry' and $3.50 gets you a cup of coffee today.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
