I'm glad you seem so clear.. phew! Thats really something. I agree she was important to him and a powerful entity at one point, but as other posters here put it, the bloom was off the rose, is that it? Besides, you are the mother of his children, so you are always going to be important and he will always love you?

I like what you said and I understand.. those rose tinted glasses of hope and ignorance have fallen away, you dont have to react with guilt or anger anymore, becuase yuo can see him clearly and what he has done, you can make an informed decision and file without second guessing yourself.. is that it? Its a sad end to the story, because I always felt he would come through in the end, but like others here.. its too little too late hey.


Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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