You are sounding like you have taken control of your life. I like "The Warriors Quest" attitude.

If you have a chance, your excellent advice may be helpful for K4D (Kevin) over in newcomers...

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804393

He has had problems with alcohol and seems to have some trouble letting go and working on himself.