Looks like I might soon be LBS...newcomer here

[brownidmom]

<<I do think even if you live with someone that has abusive tendencies I believe it may be possible to improve the sitch. By being strong, setting up and maintaining boundaries, etc. I don't know if that is your case or not. And at some point, you do have to consider your emotional and mental health.>> [/quote]

This is what I am hoping for. If I can just start GALing and act as if and ABSOLUTELY have no expectations and no R conversations, I would prefer that. The dealbreaker will be H trying to pull the boys into it, like he did this morning. I cannot tolerate that. I am nowhere near the D thought, possibly legal S if things don't improve.

<<It boils down to what you want. If you feel you have done everything you can to save the M, there may come a time where being M'd is not the best thing. If you have not done everything you can, and you can still handle trying, then keep trying. >>

I do feel like I have done everything I can, just don't think H has allowed himself to open up to the possibility of reconciliation. I am honestly just not able to cope with the daily rollercoaster ride that is my life~ will he talk to me today, will he ignore me???

I ordered the DR book but it was somehow sent to a wrong address and still hasn't made its way back to me. Any advance tips will be appreciated