Hi Stronger..Thank you for checking on me..I do have a few questions for you..see below

I made a therapy appt. I was about ready to kick him out because I could not take it anymore. He was very mean cold and distant on Friday night so I began to ignore him. My mom and I talked, she said NO MAN is worth this..NO MAN! She said you are a strong person and you can do this alone. You have family support and friends that care about you. SO..from there, I continued to ignore, took the pressure off of him, we went to d soccer game, to a festival, I took s for a run with me, I did not badger. After the festival and after 3 days of not drinking he went off on me, I ignored him, "our" friend( more like a dad, in his 50's, but orignially H friend) came over, H drank, was mean and cold. I decided to ignore him more, I hung out with "our" friend and H went to bed. Our friend and I ran to the store and then had a long talk about H. Friend said leave him alone and walk away when he gets mad. You have 2 children together and you need to try to make this work. But once H has his mind set on something he thinks he is right and that is the end of that. An odd turn of events H was nice to me..Did stuff around the house..went to zoo with us, and it was a nice day..H started drinking and so I went to bed early to make sure he did not have an opportunity to tell me how he felt. So, I think I am getting it. It is hard to fall back into my needy ways when he is nice. Not sure if there is an OW or not..still up in the air. H friend says he does not think there is because he had an opportunity to take advantage of that while I was gone for 4 days. So..that is where I am at. It is just the way he is acting makes me think there is someone else. However, I started to think..How pathetic and sad when a person has an affair, how awful must you think of yourself to stoop to that level..I AM THE BETTER PERSON! I have been running ALOT again and my H even said good job to me..I am not holding my breath...Many people think he is playing games with me..Do you think a H that would want a divorce would go out as a family? What do you think?? Do you think there is OW?