Next steps in this marathon?

[hopeinwaiting]

Here is another question for those of you dealing with OW/OM. What are your thoughts about suggesting counseling in efforts to 1)figure out what went wrong/what needs were not met for "closure"
2)maintaining a friendship with your H throughout process.

Seems like it goes against DB/DR, but I thought I would ask.

As background, my H has been in another relationship since march and moved out in June once I found out. He is currently (I'm very sure) living with OW who left her H to be w/mine. We have 2 young children and OW is 10 yrs younger with no kids.