I completely agree with J3B and BND. When I return home next month, our joint assets will be funding H's new place, although I won't be on the lease, and they will fund our house / my home as well. I don't expect, nor do I want, access to his place. I will ask that he not come to mine without prior notice, and if I can't be there, I will ask him what he plans to do or take while there. He respected my space in that way during the first 6 months of our S, and until he does otherwise, I see no reason to proactively lock him out. It just isn't consistent with my original intention to take the highest road possible through this. If H's behavior changes, then I might have to revisit this, but I doubt the law will be on my side without a legal S or D.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
