This weekend was the first time CIPA has acknowledged her beyond logistics for the boys.
Yup. She cheated. Yup, we're still waiting for even more remorse.
Still, CIPA wants to save his marriage. And he took the high road and good for him. He had to do this. I would NEVER show any kind of remorse to a person I thought had no desire to see me, talk to me or deal with me beyond our children. What's the point? Why bother if I'll never be forgiven? If CIPA shows her that he's going to take the high road, he's showing her, if she tries, maybe he would consider forgiving her.
It's got to start somewhere. CIPA, I told you once, I'll tell you again, this whole time I have done and acted in a way that if my son could watch this whole thing like it were a movie, I would be able to sit right next to him and look him in his eyes and answer every question with my dignity completely intact. Yeah, I may have done things to piss H off, but I really don't care. I still have my diginity and my head is held high.
You too my friend can do that. And at the end of every day, you know this. And in the future, if this were to end, you would be able to tell the boys, "Hey she did what she did. I even opened the door to forgive her....." You are a true man and a true father.
No matter how mad you are, how hurt you are, how disgusted you are...you have to think in terms of "Is she truly sorry?" You can not think in terms of "How can I punish her?"
Do you understand where I'm coming from? One question could save this relationship....the other will only end it completely.
i am pretty much in lock step with ya Stronger my dear.
Foregiveness is a simple word to say, but when it is contemplated and then if you are bold enough to try and put it into practice ....well then there is where you earn your stripes ..and the attention of our great and mighty Lord in Heaven.
