I agree with this in general, but there is a valid point. Many have talked about the "alien" that a WAS becomes, especially if involved in an affair. I was listening to the radio this morning about how affair sex can lead to quadruple the amounts of dopamine in the brain - because of the danger, excitement, etc.
I love my WAS with all of my heart, but I have seen her go from literally the best mom I know to a woman who gives her children casual attention. I offer my time to her - and she refuses it to be with OM. I have tried so many ways to get her to spend more time with the kids. It was funny because she started feeling guilty, and started to tell the kids that I was "bad", etc. All that did was make them love me more!
Anyway, I soon realized that you can't force anyone to be a good person. I firmly believe that under a web of hormones, MLC, childhood abuse, etc, there is a beautiful and amazing woman!
Much of what Dia said is true - but it is no excuse! As an LBS, I did make mistakes, but I got my head out of my rectum, and turned it into something positive, while my WAS has used it to have an affair, drop all of her spiritual beliefs, break off contact with her family, drop most of her friends, and worst of all, spend 80% less time with her kids.
Let's call a spade a spade - whether the LBS OR the WAS deserves it. Once that's done, choose to live a life full of love!
