Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[Hope4us]

Gotcha.

I would bet there have been some WAW's that have commented on your thread before, but it was an EA or PA or both and she still works with OM, it will be very hard for her to break the hold he has on her.

How did the EA end?

My W still goes through periods of daydreaming. I don't try to figure them out (at least I try not to try) as it could be a number of things. Could it be she's daydreaming about what her life could have been with OM? Sure. But it also could be a lot of other things too. Maybe she's thinking about what she almost lost? Maybe it's nothing.

Or maybe she's deep in thought because she wants to come back to the marriage, but there's all these conflicting emotions in her. Point is, you don't know unless she tells you.

I was there with the mood swings and all. And it seemed like in my sitch, I started getting somewhere when I would call her on being a bi*ch and then just go about my day. I wasn't nasty or anything, but I would point out that she was being that way and if it was an issue with me, tell me what it was, and if not, I'd appreciate it if she would not take whatever's bugging her out on me or the kids. I got a lot of angry looks and some periods of her not talking to me, but most times she would come around fairly soon.

If the A's been over for a year and your W hasn't left yet and you're seeing glimpses of her old self, keep doing what you're doing. Like I mentioned in my sitch, it was about 14 months after the A ended that my W really started to come around.