O'dog can't offer anything specific to the sitch - without a family tree and a map I get lost in this stuff easily. However keep in mind this kind of drama goes on in almost every family except for the ones who no longer speak.
Stay strong. Say less. Love more.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
