Thank you for responding. I am new at this and wasn't sure exactly where to post things. I am in so much pain and I just want my marriage back and my family in tact. I have 3 kids who are 18, 13, and 6. The older two, an 18 yr. old boy is almost completely shutting down. I have to drag any feeling or thoughts out of him. He has a lot of emotion, but is afraid to share it with his dad. I guess he is afraid of him leaving him too. I told my two older children they should share their feelings with their dad and their fears even if it is hard or scary. Is that the right thing to do? I want my H to see what he is giving up by leaving. I have stopped talking to him this weekend. I made the mistake of bringing up the relationship AGAIN and he told me he is definately through. I asked him to leave but he won't. He says this is his house, he paid for it and he is not leaving. Is he trying to get me to leave? How do I cope with this pain? After he told me that Sat. night, Sun morning he brought me a drink from a fast food place we used to go to all the time for a morning drink. What is that about. Then he has been nice and even had a family dinner sun night and he said it was good. I have only talked with my phone counselor one time and as scheduled for tomorrow morning. Can the situations really be turned around? I pray everyday and I am really trying to get out of his way and not talk about it anymore, but I slip up and I just want him to tell me it will all be ok. How silly huh?
Is it ok to have my kids express their feelings? Please someone give me support and more tips on how to do this. I feel like I am dying inside. I have been a stay at home mom for 20 years and never had a job. It is scary to get out there and try to do that. Not to mention, no one will pay me anything because I have never worked. I just can't bare the pain. Please give me advice on how to hang in there and get him to come around and see the value of our beautiful family.
