I've been wanting to ask this for a while. Who has changed, evolved, etc. over the last many months as this has unfolded? You? Him? Both? How?
Over the last months...I have lightened up, gotten out of his sh*t (don't ask, don't grill, don't share my feelings w/him for the most part), lightened up (not everything has to be organic), lost a bunch of weight and exercise, go out twice a week or more (barely got out before). I have a better sense of humor, am on my own and am much more creative.
H goes out almost every night (started pre-bomb), brags a lot (old behavior just amped up), seems to operate completely based on impulse (eg. he feels like calling so he does but there is no rationale), he has new friends that he considers family and he is very well taken care of...
On the positive side for H, when he is in town, he commits to see the kids at least twice a week and is reliable...for years I had asked him to cover me once a week so I could get out and take a class or something but he couldn't cuz super important somethings would come up...now he is doing it. Bittersweet.
