My wife had an emotional affair with a married man

[dgtal]

NoCodeBlues, thanks for your words. How did you confirmed PA? I'm really sorry you divorced.

bluerain. I just mentioned that plan to her last night like a preview, not too real. She doesn't think I'm real. She just said, you are crazy, I won't marry you again , lol. But 10 minutes later she gave me a big hug and a "long" kiss (5 seconds). I know she will go for it. It looks like too soon right now, but May 21th of 2010 (next year) is our 30th anniversary. It would be fantastic if we get married at the church she likes.

[NoCodeBlues]

How did you confirmed PA?

On the night of the bomb, I found their emails to each other that spoke of just enough intimacy to suggest the A was a bit more than emotional. And knowing my xW enough to know that were she to ever get that close to someone, in that kind of situation, she wouldn't let it be just emotional.

But after being "gaslighted" by her for months and months and her repeated denials, I got fed up and hired a P-I. They gave me both video surveillance footage and mostly circumstantial evidence of their nefarious activities, but it was the proof I needed to show that xW and OM had both the will and the means to their affair. It would be enough to satisfy a court of law.

The fee was expensive. But my goal was not so much to bring evidence to court but for my own piece of mind. It showed up xW for who she really is (or has become).

Again, I wish you well and hope you cherish this gift of a second chance that so few ever get.

[dgtal]

I READ IT....SORRY

[dgtal]

Posting my status:
Thanks to all of you. We are doing ok. From 1 to 10 I would give myself a 7.5
About getting married by the church, she said she will think about it. However, we were window shopping this past weekend and I showed her the ring I wanted to give her, and she kissed me, but said that I'm crazy. I will wait for a solid answer.

[dgtal]

Thanks to all you in this great forum. I never sent the OMW letter anyway. Things are every day better at home. Every 4 weeks I drive around the OM's work place just to make sure he's still the manager of that PX supermarket. My wife and I are shopping at the W/D which is 3 blocks from our house. BTW, my wife stopped putting in doubt the quality of the produces this W/D sells. I remember she used to say that the milk is better from PX because it last longer in the refrigerator BS!!! just to validate her escapes to see the OM.

I'm very happy. Things are not 100% repaired. In accordance with DR one month for every year you were married. We were at the 28 anniversary when all the mess happened, so still like 5 more months to go. My wife agree to go to an specialist on hormones problems. She's on lab test right now, she's accepting certain things and is colaborating. That will fix her LSD (I hope). I will tell more later. I don't want her to see me typing in my laptop. Bye bye