Tired and grouchy. I think its in the air. Just a little anyway.
You will get strong enough. You will. First, you have to stop trying to own it. Then you have to stop trying to prove that he is wrong. I'm glad others are telling him good things about your S. As long as you know the truth, go with that. H will figure it out, or he won't. But that is his problem. Sure it might feel really great to beat him over the head with it, but it won't make him see it any sooner.
That is the suckiest part of the whole thing. It doesn't happen quickly and it doesn't get better quickly. It takes time. You might not connect for a very long time to come and the best thing you can do for you is to find a way to just accept it and live for yourself.
Have a good day.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox