Can you elaborate? The person that I think she is not really who she is or the person she is right now is not really who she is? (kind of confusing)
My point was who she is behaving like now is not who she is. I don't buy this:
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She has been telling me that she's been an uncaring, outgoing, wild party girl all along, but has just hidden it (for over 12 years).
If you had a certain personality type, do you think (a) you could pretend to be something other than that for 12 years and (b) pretend so effectively that you fool the one person on earth who should know you better than anyone else for 12 years?
Now, that said, I do believe now SHE THINKS she has always been the "party girl." But I suspect this is something she will come out of at some point. It just sounds too much like script and the fog working here.
And, in the end, you can't control what she thinks or does, so it's not your job to figure it out or convince her of anything (which, BTW, won't work).
Just keep focusing on you, changing, and work on detaching. The rest will come, but not until you take care of you.
