Unfortunately her loss of job scuttles our ability at the present moment to afford an apartment for her to move out to. She appears also unwilling to move out at all. I'd like any advice on this, since I can't physically eject her.
If she continues her R with OM, than this is not your problem. It is a problem SHE has to solve - how SHE is going to afford to live on her own.
Yes, you are obligated to provide spousal support IF your income is larger than hers. For this it is income Potential (based on her historical earnings and training level) that matters, not the fact that she just lost her job.
It is not "punishing" her, as you expressed in an earlier post. It is just enforcing boundaries and consequences. "You can not be with him and be married to me at the same time" - mutual support, shared finances, living together, etc are a part of being "Married", therefore she has to choose. Cake eating (staying married but having contact with OM on the side) is NOT an option.
I don't think you have to physically eject her, but you have to be clear on the consequences, AND you have to be prepared to follow through.
Consequences are those things that are directly linked to her moving out and being independent: Separate bank accounts, separate credit cards, discussing and deciding how you will handle the current house / apartment (If she leaves, and you don't have her income AND you have to provide spousal support at the usual levels, will you have to move from where you are now? ), division of the china, silver, etc etc.
Last edited by Thinker; 09/14/0905:25 PM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
