I’ve been following up on all your threads and it’s given me loads to think about. I’m still committed to the NC route (it’s been about a month), GAL and so on. There’s been one short email exchange re the birthday this week. I asked H to do a small thing re the birthday and find it’s been delegated to one of the kids, which is a bit petty. Also a quick visit to pick the kids up, I kept in the background then.
Coaching sess with Laurie was good. She suggested that I rephrase emails and so on with my H so that he has to take a more active part rather than getting the no/yes/ok responses that I’ve had in the past or I ask him to do something and he ignores (see above). Also that I keep some sort of bridge between him and me going ie the odd email just to update him. Not sure about that yet seems to be opposite of what I’m doing with the NC approach. Which by the way is working for me, not sure whether it’s helping the M though.
Have to say though seeing him in my kitchen yesterday was for me OK although he seemed to be a bit on edge. In fact I can look at him objectively at last and begin to wonder if I want him back at all. I do love my H but do I want him back in my life……the jury’s out. And just as a side one of the kids took a picture of him on his phone when I looked back at it the H looked a bit like a gnome – he he. Can’t imagine jumping into bed with Grumpy, Doc, Sleepy and co.
