I appreciate the feedback. Lonely wolf It seems from my end and your comments this could be true our wives have sacrificed everything over the last few years and they feel they deserve some stuff for themselves. In my case my oldest daughter is 7 and I have not taken my wife out on a date in 7 years yup talk about neglect / me bad. My focus was on my two girls and I lost sight of my wife’s needs which is one of the biggest issues I am where I am. As everyone has said do not pursue or pressure as It will drive her further away so I do not know at this time how I can make up lost time on meeting her needs. Perhaps this is why everyone says patents patents patents, do nothing at this time. So neglect number one number two attitude. I have been verbally abusive towards my wife and as she is a soft spoken seemingly insecure girl, it is not a good combination when married to a hot headed Pollack like myself. I wear my emotions on my sleeve and I say how I feel and move on, my wife says very little and she has been suppressing all of her feelings for a long time. I have pushed her emotionally into the ground and she has little to no fight in her. I have been taking anger management classes and ok my dad beat the crap out of me and belittled me my whole life and I have learned and say to myself I will not pass that negative attitude onto my girls the abuse stops with me. I start a group anger class which runs 9 weeks, I should learn lots more I am sure. My wife says we can have a conversation and once it gets heated I pounce and go right for her jugular, I have to win the fight at all costs. I need lots of work on that. Even yesterday we were taking and she had said she was not feeling well and not sleeping I had a brain fart and said so…. do you think I am sleeping these days.(thinking of myself me first) she commented see we were taking normally and you throw that harsh remark at be. I am so tired of my parents and my friends all giving me there to bits on my situation. I went to a party on Saturday and I had a few girl friends make some rude comments about my wife which I felt were inappropriate as they know very little about my story. I ended up thinking about their comments and left the party after only being there an hour. My wife did ask me why I was home so early and I commented that people were making inappropriate comments about her. I said no more, kept my mouth shut…. but it upset her big time. Can we call this sliding backwards. Brain hurts. Thanks for the ear people. Stitch
