Hey Karen, I was just remembering a situation with the boys when they first started at school. The accidents seemed to happen because they waited until they really had to go then they raised their hand. By the time the teeacher called on them...too late. After that happened with my second, the teacher in that class said to just quietly get up and go(I think it was PE). It is a lot to take in when you are first starting. Why should we assume it is any different for your daughter just because she is 9?
It really is sad that your H is motivated soley by money and not love of his children.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory