I strongly suggest you read SEX STARVED MARRIAGE. It will help you to understand how you can communicate with your significant other about this problem. Finding the right words is so very difficult. But SSM provides some strategies. Most importantly it helps you understand what's going on in the mind of the low sexual drive partner. This is crucial if you're going to find the right way to communicate. It's so easy to get defensive in situations like this. Unless you've made a strong effort to understand what's going on in the mind of your SO, you'll have a very difficult time finding the right verbal approach to discussing the situation. Read SSM.
It sounds like your partner has not always had a low sex drive. But then after you moved, the frequency diminished and eventually disappeared altogether? Am I understanding right?
Why the immediate change upon moving? What's different about where you live now? Did you move away from family? Did you move for work? Why did you move? How it this tied to the onset of diminished interest in sex?
Tell us more about your situation. I don't think we really know enough to give you any advice that is worth reading.
me: 50 w (waw): 45 daughter: 9 m: 16 t: 19 bomb: 9/26/08 status: physical separation for 7 weeks, then work-in-progress R
