checking in ... again

[garyjlost]

Hi, BrokenTrust.

Thanks for your response.

You said:
"it sounds like your wife might be slipping into her old habits, maybe unconsciously testing to see if her doing that will make you change back as well."

You might be onto something there. I'll keep this in mind. Good advice.

You said:
"dates have become normal... there is a set schedule, go on date, come home, ML. Where is the relaxed spontinaity?"

Exactly. But I don't know how to change this scenario. I'm not the one enforcing a mundane pattern. The pattern has been imposed by my wife as the ONLY acceptable pattern. But yes, at the same time, this pattern is utterly devoid of spontaneity. I don't know what to do ...

You said:
"If you can afford it, maybe a romantic weekend, just the two of you at a bed and breakfast, not expecting sex, just the two of you rekindling what came before sex..."

Yes, we've done this ... once. It seemed to work well. But money is very tight right now. We splurged on two vacations this past summer (with our daughter in tow) and now have little spare money. Although we are looking into this ... maybe in November.

I just read your sitch. Wow. I'll respond in your own thread.

Thanks again.