I'm coming to realise that too about the leopard. Although I think h did change his spots when he left me, it is just on their time frame when they next change them and we can always wait. If that makes any sense
With regards to h's stuff, Jody said for me to separate it from mine and arrange a time with him for him to come and take it away. I literally put it all in a cupboard, didn't box it or anything. H didn't even bring any boxes with him . It just made me realise how much he expects that I would have done these things for him.
Yes, I had to do the same thing. Depressed people just don't have any motivation. And my STBXH has been severely depressed for quite a while now. So *shrugs*
I dumped some of his stuff at MIL's since he wouldn't cooperate in sorting it lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Totally agree with the depression statement & no motivation. I think my xh would just as soon leave his stuff here forever.
So, I received an email from him after 2 or so weeks! Seems he no longer has a computer (guess his landlord/friend took it back) & has to go to the library. No mobile/cell either only home phone. He told me a bit about what he's been doing, asked to have a drink on Monday and, and, get this .... this is the kicker .... asked me why I haven't tried to call him!!! Well, let's see maybe because you've been avoiding me for the past 2 years & I've given up trying!!!!! (BTW that last statement s/be in all CAPS). Gotta say too funny!
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Hey Julia, Well, whether or not I should have, I did reply. Said that today was ok, so we will see. About the phone call I said that I didn't know he wanted to talk to me, because that has not been the norm for a long time. Then I asked why he hasn't called me? So we shall see - not bothered either way.
Some good stuff on your thread.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Hey Julia, So I called my xh to see if dinner & drinks were still on. He said yes, but only for a couple of hours. Which was expected & ok. I asked him why he never tried calling me. He said cuz maybe I didn't want to talk to him. I said, well why would you expect me to call you & when you been avoiding me for the past 2 years? He got this sad guilty look on his face. We chatted some, he seemed a bit more open & even asked how I was doing & such. The evening seemed to go in warp speed. Obliviously, he is very worried & nervous about his life & not having a job. He hasn't talked to his BMF in a month or so. Wow, he even tried calling him, no return call. What kind of a BF, is that?!?
All in all it went ok. It seems he wants to come over on Wednesday eve as well & will give me a call at work. OMG - 2 times in 1 week!!!
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Hey Michelle, Long time no see - good for you! Nah, I think you made the right choice. You seem very happy.
Another no show, no call from my xh. I emailed him today. He felt guilty for 1st canceling on Wed & then had car trouble on Thurs when we were supposed to meet. He freaked out (in his words), so he didn't call. Actually, I didn't expect him really anyway. Got this song & dance down already. Guess he doesn't realize my happiness isn't in his hands. Nor really any feelings on the surface anyway.
Just goin along at a turles pace
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
I love the way you can be so straightforward with him and call him on his behaviour!