I've had the same thing. You detach, they start to come back. It's hard not to pursue when they start to come back. As soon as "that look" has come back to your eye though...poof! They're gone again.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.